B-day Blog! (Self-Friendship & Free-Flow Writing)

My birthday was Sunday and Kep took Maddie, Honey, and I out to Camas, WA, for a beautiful brunch, followed by a visit to Sandy River and a search for cake after discovering our destination soft-serve drive-through joint was closed. The sun was out. The air was warm. There was Maddie’s DJing and car-sickness and laughter and collective wondering about the meaning of an early morning birthday dream… 

Cherished memories spent with people so, so dear to me and integral in my life. 

And yet, it feels fitting that the writing-theme for my birthday month is Self-Friendship & Free-Flow Writing. 

“We enter this world alone, we leave the world alone.”
~James Anthony Froude 

Free-flow writing practice is about lots of things. Hence the monthly themes:

  • It’s about slowing downand paying attention
  • It’s about goal-less-ness
  • It’s about listening to your intuitive voice.
  • It’s about authentic self-expression
  • It’s about trust… surrender… embodiment… connection…                  

ALL these aspects of mindful, wholehearted living help cultivate self-friendship (or however you prefer to call it: self-acceptance, self-compassion, self-love, befriending yourself). 

Because when you’re comfortable in your own skin, and grounded in self-worth, you honor yourself and serve the world.

For me, the heart of free-flow writing practice is to create a softer, sweeter friendship with yourself, just as you are. 

“Ultimately, we have just one moral duty: to reclaim large areas of peace in ourselves, more and more peace, and to reflect it toward others. And the more peace there is in us, the more peace there will be in our troubled world.”
~Etty Hillesum

[Esther "Etty" Hillesum (January 15, 1914 – November 30, 1943) was the Dutch author of confessional letters and diaries which describe both her religious awakening and the persecutions of Jewish people in Amsterdam during the German occupation. In 1943, she was deported and killed in Auschwitz concentration camp.]

Free-flow writing is not about wearing rose color glasses and seeing what we want to see. It’s sitting with the reality that we, and the world, are light and dark, both.

Join me in a local or online circle this month as we explore the theme of Self-Friendship & Free-Flow Writing. Register on the Circles page. (First circle is always free!)


Also, here’s something super cool: Sherri Curley, creator of The Practical Sort, interviewed me for her blog! Sherri helps people love their home again and cultivate simplicity as a lifestyle. Her site is packed with resources, tips, podcasts, and videos about organizing and moving, as well as cool information on brain science and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Tapping.

In the introduction to our interview, titled Write to Unclutter Your BrainSherri begins:

“Universally, clutter begins in one location, the brain. The causes vary, but the outcomes are typically the same. If clutter begins in the brain, what can we do to sort it out? Here is one option to shed the sh*t that could be weighing you down. Read on...”  

With love,






Want to write?
Take a pen & prompt journey:


writing prompt

"more and more peace"


1. Grab a pen & notebook. Write the prompt at the top of the page. Set a timer for 10 minutes. Or 5. Or 2!

2. Keep your pen moving as you write the thoughts, feelings, and images that arise. Don’t stop to think or edit.

3. Accept ALL that you write - the pretty + ugly; absurd + boring. Discover what wants to be felt, known, expressed, released...