Vulnerability = Health, Happiness, & Fulfillment
Yesterday, I shared on Facebook this article I found on a friend's newsfeed: This 75-Year Harvard Study Found the 1 Secret to Leading a Fulfilling Life.
It's a fabulous read that gets right to the point:
"Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period."
But it's these words of Truth that resonate deeply:
"It doesn't matter whether you have a huge group of friends and go out every weekend or if you're in a "perfect" romantic relationship (as if those exist). It's the quality of the relationships--how much vulnerability and depth exists within them; how safe you feel sharing with one another; the extent to which you can relax and be seen for who you truly are, and truly see another."
So, beautiful reader, here's my question to you today:
- Are you prioritizing connection in your life?
- Are you allowing yourself to be seen for who you truly are, and truly see another?
- Is there a courageous step you can take this week in that direction of vulnerable sharing?
The findings of this study articulate my WHY for facilitating free-flow writing circles.
This story does too:
Last month, a participant in the February online circle asked a question in her writing, and then promptly answered herself (as often happens in free-flow writing).
She asked how it was that she felt so safe and comfortable writing and sharing with a group of strangers!? "Because I am these women" were the words that spilled onto her notebook.
So much truth and beauty in these words.
"Because I am these women" is now a refrain that drops into my mind with some regularity.
We silently vibrate with "me too" as we listen to one another -- and it's a balm for the social animals that we are. Though our details are different, when we write communally, we see ourselves, and what it is to be human, in others.
- We see how similar we are.
- We see that we're not alone.
- We see that here, it's safe, and fulfilling, to be seen.
And we see how gorgeous life is, in all its pain and joy and mundane-ness and awe. All of it and all of us are welcome in the notebook.
It's for these reasons that women come back for more communal writing and claim their desire to be in connection with other women. To "relax and be seen for who you truly are, and truly see another." To prioritize connection.
It's my privilege and passion to offer these writing circles and we'd LOVE to have you, Sister!
Want to write?
Take a pen & prompt journey:
The last time I showed real vulnerability...
Set a timer for 10 minutes. Or 5. Or 2!
Write whatever arises in your thoughts, feelings, and sensations.
Don’t stop to think or edit - keep your pen moving.
Accept ALL that you write - the pretty & ugly; absurd & boring.
Discover what wants to be felt, known, expressed, released...